7 Speed Reading Review Tips and Advice

7 Speed Reading Review

7 Speed Reading Review

Many students are faced with a challenge of reading several pages before they feel tired or asleep. Some professionals who want to advance their education find it difficult to concentrate especially if they have other duties to attend to. Learning how to fast read is the key to achieving your goals in whatever you are studying. However, speed reading does not just happen; it requires efforts and some other factors. Based off of the many 7 Speed Reading Review online, it seems like it will be a great software.  The following are some tips that can enable you achieve your academic goals despite having challenges:

The posture – Every reader should know that reading is skill that involves thinking. So you must set an environment that will alert the mind. For instance, if you are reading while lying on the couch or bed, it is very easy to fall asleep because the mind assumes it’s time to sleep. You need to sit in a position which tells the brain that it’s time to read.

Get moving – You need to move your eyes very fast. Stopping your eyes at one word will make your mind relax; and thus, you will be unable to speed read. However, moving your eyes with speed may not bring a positive effect; you need to teach your mind how to comprehend or respond to the word.

Move faster – As you continue to read, increase the speed not forgetting to focus on the meaning of the print. Remember reading is all about thinking; so you must always keep the mind under control and try to see if you understand whatever is in the text.

Set the time – You need to set the time which you feel comfortable to read. Those people who schedule to read after work find it difficult as their mind is already occupied. Morning hours are the best as the mind is still fresh and it can absorb a lot of information.

Set the limit – Reading the text as if its urgent will enable your mind focus on the content and in this case, you will be able to understand more. Many of the best speed reading software advise this technique.

Good lighting – In case you are reading electronically, the background light should be dim, but the screen should be brighter.

Use the right brain fuel  – Many people get some food or snacks once they feel sleepy. Although you may pick up, it will not be too long before you fall asleep once the energy begins to burn off. Drinking some juice or taking fruits will do you better especially if combined with some proteins?

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Help Kids To Read

If reading those confusing and wordy inserts that come with prescription medications has been a hard pill to swallow, there’s good news. A recent Food and Drug Administration law is going to make this information easier for consumers to read and understand.

According to the Partnership for Clear Health Communication, this law is a big step toward improving information about medications. The Partnership for Clear Health Communication is a national, non-profit coalition working to build awareness and advance solutions to improve health literacy (the ability to read, understand and act on health information) and positively impact health outcomes.

The new labels include information on when and how to take the medicine; how it works in the body; and what you should do if you experience any side effects.

Patients who understand this information may be more likely to take their medications correctly, which may lead to better health outcomes. Even with the new prescription inserts, which will be phased in over the next seven years, many people will still have questions about why and how to take their medications. The Partnership says that the most important thing you can do for your health is to ask questions-to your doctor, nurse and pharmacist. Your health care providers want you to ask questions. Why? Because they know that if you really understand your medical condition, you will be more likely to follow their instructions and keep yourself healthy.

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Special Education

Your dog deserves the best training possible and finding the right dog trainer is important. But, where do you find the best candidates for the job?

Your dog is not just a pet, he or she is a member of your family and, just as you do with other members of your family, you want to make sure your dog receives the best education.

Of course, a dog training facility is important, but the key to good training is the trainer.

Choosing the right trainer is not only better for your dog, but it is also better for you. Good trainers don’t just get your dog to do a few “tricks”, they teach your dog how to learn, which results in a happier, more confident dog. You benefit from the sense of pride that comes with having a well trained pet by your side.

It all sounds easy enough, but how do you find the best dog trainer? There are no hard and fast rules, and often there’s a bit of luck involved, but you can take a few steps to make your search a little easier.

Fortunately, there are professional dog trainer associations and they are a good place to start. Many trainers have taken the time to become certified and an association can put you in contact with certified professionals in your area.

Your veterinarian or groomer can be a good source of information. They know your dog and are in a good position to recommend a trainer with the right fit for your particular needs.

Of course, it never hurts to talk to family, friends and neighbours about their experiences with dog trainers.

No matter how you go about finding a trainer, you need to talk to the potential candidates and find out for yourself which ones you feel will be best able to train your dog. Ask about the trainer’s certifications and membership in professional associations. Find out if they are involved in any continuing education for dog trainers. Perhaps most importantly, you need to have a comfort level with the trainer so you can work together for the benefit of your dog.

The certified dog trainers at Alpha Paws have the experience and knowledge to answer your questions, make recommendations and keep you informed about your dog’s needs and progress.

Joshua Katz is a high school math teacher in Orange County, FL. Joshua’s Talk: In the mid 1800’s, Horace Mann captured the potential impact of education on s. . .

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Read For Kids

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You will also be explained about how to implement this system successfully.

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English Reading For Kids

The different sounds that the letter”d” takes at the end of a verb in the past tense

An extract from the book: Word Power by the author of this article.

The English language indicates that the action of the verb is in the past by having some form of the “d” or “t” sound end the word. We say some kind of “d” or “t” sound although the word is almost always written with a “d”.

Many people who learn English are so confused by the irregular forms of the verbs that they give up and invent their own ways of referring to the past. Some say: “Yesterday I walk to work” or other ways to avoid using the past tense that they have never learned.

Sure, there are irregular words in English. The past of teach is taught; the past of buy is bought; the past of think is thought. But even these irregular words end in some kind of a “t” sound to indicate that the verb refers to the past. Luckily, there aren’t too many of these irregular verbs. You just have to learn them. The good thing is that they behave more or less the same way.

But let’s look at the regular verbs. Most English verbs are regular. To indicate the past, they put some kind of a sound made with the tongue touching the back of the upper teeth. Almost always it is the sound of a “d” or of a “t”.

The ending of the verb “love” in the past: “I loved the movie” is very different from the ending of the verb “walk”: “I walked to work. ” When it sounds like the letter “d”, it is a voiced sound, that is the vocal cords vibrate. When it sounds like a “t”, it is a voiceless or an unvoiced sound.

But how do you know when it should end with a voiced “d” sound and when with a voiceless “t” sound? Although you may not believe it, there is a “rule” that will help you to form the past of most English verbs. You may still make some mistakes but little by little you will feel the mistakes and will correct them. The structure of your mouth will force you to make the right sound.

The “rule” for the formation of the past is similar to the “rule” for the “s” at the end of plural nouns and verbs in the third person singlular of the present tense.
The rule of the “d” in three parts:

There is a one simple “rule” that covers the pronunciation of the “d” and “t” sounds.

The sound that indicates the past of the verb is the voiceless “t” sound when the verb ends in a voiceless consonant. On the other hand, the indication of the past is the voiced “d” sound when the verb ends in a voiced consonant.

The three parts of the rule are:

1. the voiceless “t” sound,
2. the voiced “d” sound,
3. the added syllable.

1. The voiceless (unvoiced) “t”:

The “rule” tells us when the last sound of a verb is is like that of the words talk, cap, mess, etc (that is, a voiceless sound), the past of the verb ends with a voiceless (or unvoiced) sound like that of the word walked. The past of these verbs is talked, capped, messed and the “d” is unvoiced.

For example the letter “d” that represents the past in the written word is pronounced like the “t” of Tom (a voiceless sound) when the verb ends in a voiceless sound. So when the verb ends in voiceless sounds such as the letters k in the word looked, p in the word stopped, f in the word cuffed (or gh in the word laughed) the past is indicated by the voiceless “t” sound. This always happens so don’t be fooled by the written letter “d”.

The past tense of the verb is also indicated by a voiceless sound when the verb ends in any “hissing” sound such as the words: face, wash, crunch. All these sounds are voiceless so the verbs that end with them will always have the “d” of their past form sounded voicelessly and therefore become the forms faced, washed, crunched.

It is important to note that although the voiceless “d” is written “ed”, you do NOT add a syllable to the original word.

2. The voiced “d”:

The “d” is voiced in two situations:

a. when the word ends in a vowel sound such as, played, teed, owed, cued.

The “strange” vowels are also followed by a voiced “d” such as in the words: furred, papered, pawed. The past of verbs ending in a diphthong sound also end in a voiced “d” sound, for example in the words: plowed, paid, toyed .

b. when the word ends in a voiced consonant.

Some examples of the second case are: b as in the word robbed, n in the word drowned, l in the word mailed, g in the word logged, v in the word heaved, m n the word farmed, n as in the word panned, thesoundof the letters ng as in the word ring, r as in the word cars, v as in the word stoves, and thin the word bathed.

Remember that that the voiced “d” sound forms the past of verbs that end in a voiced consonant, for example, burned is the past of the verb burn and lovedis the past of love.

It is important to note that although the voiced “d” in these words is written with “ed”, you do NOT add an extra syllable.

3. The added syllable

In both cases, when the verb ends in either the sound of the voiced “d” or the sound of the voiceless “t”, the English language adds a syllable to the verb.

For example, the verbs in the present tense visit, vote, side, need, plant, adopt, add “ed” to make the past tense and become visited, voted, sided, needed, planted, adopted.

The “ed” is pronounced with a special vowel followed by a voiced “d”. The special vowel is the “short i” which has the IPA symbol of the small capital “i”. We treat this sound in the book in the chapter on the short vowels. Remember a ship is not a sheep. You have to be able to hear the difference to be able to use this vowel in the added syllable.

It is only in this special case that you pronounce the second syllable of the past of a verb. Not all verbs have two syllables in the past. It is important that you realize that most common English verbs have only one syllable. Do not think that you have to pronounce the “ed” of the words such as walked, talked, played, tuned, tooled. Do not read these words as they were written in your language.

Although many verbs have “ed” in their past, it is just a strange note of English spelling. You often only pronounce one syllable with the past indicated by a voiced “d” or an unvoiced “t” according to which sound preceded the ending.

You only pronounce the “ed” when the root form of the verb ends with your tongue touching the back of your teeth, either with a voiced “d” sound or with an unvoiced “t” sound. For example, “Today, I heat the coffee but yesterday I heated it” (2 syllables because the last consonant is a “t”). But, “Today I talk to my friend but yesterday I talked on the phone. ” (one syllable because the last consonant is not a “t” or a “d”)

The extra syllable: Listen to this as often as necessary for you to be able to distinguish the unvoiced “t” from the voiced “d”.

Review and practice all parts of the “RULE”!
The first part of the “rule”: the voiceless “t”;
The second part of the “rule”: the voiced “d” :
The third part of the “rule”: the added syllable

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Learn to use search engine optimization techniques when writing your articles. If hiring a writer to write articles for you, you can choose one who already knows about SEO or you can supply them with a list of keywords and let them know where they should be placed and how many times they should be repeated throughout the article. Optimizing your articles for search engines will help them rank higher when someone searches for a keyword relating to your subject, which means that you will receive more visitors because more people will actually see your URL. It is a fact that most visitors don’t look past the first search engine result page and by the third search engine results page there is practically no audience left for you to promote to. What this means for those on the third or high page is no traffic. This is why it is very important for you to make sure that your articles are prepared in a way that will eventually get them to that first or second search engine results page.

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Special Education Certification

Did you know that one of the best ways you can create a secure future for yourself is through furthering your educational credentials? And self certification loans can be the perfect answer for anyone looking to pay for education, even if they are non traditional students. Beyond a shadow of a doubt, self certification loans are ideal for persons in the following positions:

The Self Employed Individual

Are you a man or woman who works for him- or herself and wants to build credentials through higher education courses, classes, or degrees? Have you been working out of your home and filing your own tax returns without the benefit of pay stubs from a third party? If so, youre definitely a perfect candidate for self certification loans.

With self certification loans, you can return to school or even go for the first time and never allow the worry of rising tuition costs to stop you from achieving your dreams. Though you may be asked to present bank statements from the past few months to prove that you do, indeed, make some amount of money, youll basically be on the honour system and will be given self certification loans based on what you state you earn.

The Self Employed Parent

Are you the parent of a teen child or young adult who wants to or will be attending college or university soon? If so, you may want to help out with payments so your son or daughter is not financially burdened. Of course, you dont have to pay for the whole thing theres nothing wrong with having him or her take out a loan for him- or herself, too

However, if youre self-employed, you may wonder if youll be able to borrow money due to your lack of pay stubs or third party verification that having an employer provides to the financial institution. Thanks to self certification loans, you absolutely can Though your interest rates might be higher than the national average, its still better than having your child miss out on a degree simply because funds are tight.

The Back-to-School Divorcee

Are you a former at-home parent who recently went through a difficult divorce or separation that has left you without any property assets but with alimony payments or a well-stocked bank account, but with a desire to go back to school? If so, self certification loans are designed just for you and people in your situation.

Through savings and checking account statements, you can prove to the bank or financial institution that you are receiving a certain amount of money every month thus, the lending institution will realize that you can make the repayments for self certification loans and will see you as less of a credit risk.

Yes, your interest rates will be higher-than-usual, but in a few years, youll be able to get a good job as a result of your degree, and youll then probably be able to pay off any existing principle on your self certification loans quickly.

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Teaching Kids To Read

It is never too early to begin teaching your child to read, or at least laying the foundation for early literacy skills, and it can definitely be left too late!

If you are not sure then think about this. Statistically, more American children suffer long-term life-long harm from the process of learning to read than from parental abuse, accidents, and all other childhood diseases and disorders combined. In purely economic terms, reading related difficulties cost our nation more than the war on terrorism, crhyme, and drugs combined.

Reading problems are a further challenge to our world by contribute significantly to the perpetuation of socio-economic, racial and ethnic inequities. However it is not just poor and minority children who struggle with reading. According to the 2002 national report card on reading by the National Assessment of Educational Progress (NAEP), most of our children (64%) are less than proficient in reading even after 12 years of our attempts to teach them.

Even without knowing these worrisome statistics we are aware that reading proficiency is essential to success–not only academically but in life. As the American Federal of Teachers states: “No other skill taught in school and learned by school children is more important than reading. It is the gateway to all other knowledge. Teaching students to read by the end of third grade is the single most important task assigned to elementary schools. Those who learn to read with ease in the early grades have a foundation on which to build new knowledge. Those who do not are doomed to repeated cycles of frustration and failure. “

More than any other subject or skill, our children’s futures are determined by how well they learn to read.

Reading is absolutely fundamental. It has been said so often that it has become meaningless but it does not negate its truth. In our society, in our world, the inability to read consigns children to failure in school and consigns adults to the lowest strata of job and life opportunities.

And just when we thought the stakes could get no higher, over the last decade, educational research findings have discovered that how well children learn to read has other, even more life-shaping, consequences. Most children begin learning to read during a profoundly formative phase in their development. As they begin learning to read, they are also learning to think abstractly. They are learning to learn and they are experiencing emotionally charged feelings about who they are and how well they are learning.

What does that mean? Most children who struggle with reading blame themselves. Day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, the process of learning to read teaches these children to feel ashamed of themselves–ashamed of their minds–ashamed of how they learn.

And the sad truth is that they have nothing to be ashamed about. As Dr. Grover Whitheurst, Director Institute of Education Sciences, Assistant Secretary of Education, U. S. Department of Education (2003) says: “Reading failure for nearly every child is not the child’s failure; it’s the failure of policy makers, the failure of schools, the failure of teachers and the failure of parents. We need to reconceptualize what it means to learn to read and who’s responsible for its success if we’re going to deal with the problem. “

Do you want to wait for the policy makers to find a solution? Do you trust that they will? Or would you rather make sure that the job is done right by taking charge yourself?

I know what my answer is because I know first-hand from witnessing my brother’s life-long difficulties what an irrevocable impact a reading struggle early in life can make. It can mark your child for life!

I’m not promising that your child can learn to read early or that they will not experience difficulty. After all, there is a significant number of children suffering from learning disabilities. These children will struggle. However, early instruction may ease their suffering and make the struggle a bit easier to handle. At the very least you will know that you did everything you could to help your child-and your child will know that as well. That cannot be wasted effort!

And you have a head-start on every educator because you know your child–herr temperament, her strengths, and her weaknesses. You are the person best equipped to begin teaching your child.

So we come back to the central question-when should your child’s reading education begin? Traditional American Education models call for teaching a child to read between the ages of 7-9. Obviously we cannot begin teaching a newborn how to read. However, we can begin in infancy to lay the foundation for literacy which will in the end make your child a stronger reader.

Literacy is defined as an individual’s ability to read, write, and speak in English, compute, and solve problems, at levels of proficiency necessary to function on the job, in the family of the individual, and in society.

Many of the simple things we do at home with our children support the development of literacy so you are already working to make your child more literate even if you are not actively beginning the process to teach your child to read. This includes simple activities such as reading to your child, reciting nursery rhymes, and singing songs.

But what if you do want to become a more active participant? There are many things you can do and it doesn’t mean you need to invest hundreds of dollars in an expensive reading program. You don’t actually need to spend much money at all to teach your child to read at home-or at the least prepare your child well for the beginning of reading instruction in school. Most parents already have the tools you need in your home to begin today!

This is why I stress that it is never too early to begin-if you work with your child’s development and make learning fun and interesting as well as challenging.

My essential strategy as an educator is to create learning opportunities and then to get out of the way of my students so they can learn. Learning is an active experience that should fully engage the participant. I believe that when I am “teaching” that the student is only passively involved in the learning process. I see myself much more as a guide and a resource than a teacher in my classroom. I have taken this approach with my son’s education and it has been very successful.

We have various learning toys and aids in our home and there are many lessons taking place each day (at home and away) but I have never drilled him on facts or even used flashcards.

If you can find ways to make learning fun and exciting-something that your child actually wants to do with you-then begin as soon as possible.

Your child will have plenty of opportunity for dry lectures, mind-numbing repetitive drills, and boring lessons as they grow older so don’t even go there. If you cannot make learning fun and more like play than work then don’t even go there. Trust your child’s education to the professionals and hope for the best. Remember, there are many wonderful teachers out there so you child is not doomed to failure even if you don’t intervene. However, the system is not a success and it is likely that at some point during the process your child may be adversely effected by it! That’s why I take an active role in my child’s education.

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Education Board

The San Jose Unified School District has enacted a unique plan to build relationships with the local community in order to overcome an old negative image.

The Past Negative Image of the San Jose Schools

A series of teacher strikes, bankruptcy, and changes in leadership gave the San Jose Unified School District a bad reputation among the local community. Students weren’t achieving state standards and many parents and teachers did not know what to do to fix the situations. The San Jose Unified School District faced the daunting task of regaining public trust and integrating itself into the needs of the community.

The Board of Education Driven Public Engagement Model

The solution that San Jose came up with was not an easy one, nor a quick one. It involved finding new ways to communicate with parents and other area residents in a way that allowed all voices to be heard and real data to be collected about the school district’s problems.

Focus Groups

The San Jose Unified School District organized a series of focus groups to identify what needed to be done. These focus groups were able to pinpoint the factors that bred mistrust and disinterest in the community. Eventually, the school district was able to say that the basic factors contributing to the problems in the district came from three sources: lack of school – community interaction, low student expectations, and uninvolved or uninformed parents. With this information, the Board of Education turned to business and civic groups to try to find ways to eliminate these factors.

The Goal

The Board of Education Driven Public Engagement Model has both short and long term goals. In the short term, the San Jose Unified School district sought to create a plan that would make the local community want to send their children there. In the long term, the school district hopes to engage the community in order to accomplish their goals of improving student performance while building up a network of tools and strategies for communication with the public. Superintendent Don Iglesias explained: “The program was developed to increase parent and community participation and understanding within our school district. ”

Successful Components of the Model

District communications are at the center of the Public Engagement Model and conferences between school and community members are held on a yearly basis. Called “community conversations,” these conferences have allowed the school district to hear the thoughts and opinions of over 6000 people. In addition, annual surveys for parents, teachers, and students help identify the issues to be resolved and help all members of the community feel a commitment to the success of the San Jose Unified School District.

Evidence That It’s Working

Improvements in student achievement across the board are clear in the 30 California Distinguished Schools and 11 National Blue Ribbon Schools in the district. In addition, the new relationship with the community has also had its rewards. First a $165 million bond issue and then a $429 million one have shown overwhelming public support for the San Jose Unified School District, as the local community shows the new found trust and high expectations it has for area schools. As Superintendent Iglesias puts it, “Through this project, we have learned what strategies work from a public standpoint, and parents feel heard and respected. “

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Importance Of Education

As with many fields, having a college education can drastically affect the kind of success you have with accountancy. Everything from salary, position, and company you work for can be impacted by the amount of education you have under your belt. This does not mean you cannot succeed without a master’s degree, but it will certainly help if you do have a college education.

The reason for getting a college education is to gain knowledge and expertise in the field prior to getting your first job. Throughout the college experience, you may be required to get an internship of some sort along the way. Having an internship allows you to see first-hand what kind of work is done in this particular industry.

Not only is it much more difficult to get a job without going to college, but it can be difficult to get an internship as well. Anymore, internships are highly looked upon within the various professions in the world. It shows a company that you have pursued accountancy and still enjoyed the experience. This gives a company more assurance that you will not back out on them after a few months.

One thing you have to understand is even with a college education, you cannot expect to start at the top. It is a highly competitive industry that does require you to work your way up the totem pole. Many students come out of college thinking they know it all and expect to be making a six-figure income right away. Little do they know what is ahead of them?

Having a college education technically does not even guarantee you a job. It all depends on what openings are available and what kinds of competition you have for the job. You should also be prepared to move out of the state or country to take a position you have been offered. But you do have to realize the odds are in your favor with a quality education.

Companies are going to look much closer at a student’s resume if they have a college education over a high school education. The same can be said for a student who has a master’s degree over a bachelor’s degree. The more experience and education you have in the field, the less the company has to do to get you going.

When first applying for jobs out of college, you are probably going to look for a starting-level job such as a pay clerk or an account clerk in a company or college. If you do a good enough job with this position, you can expect to be moved up to a much more rewarding accountancy profession. Many times this is a good supervisory job, but you never know what will be open.

The difference between a master’s degree and a bachelor’s degree could mean a quicker advancement. Some coming out of college with a master’s degree can start right at a supervisory position and completely skip the account clerk position. Within the supervisory position, you can expect to manage accounting functions prepare reports for the company. After this, you can move on to bigger positions with a higher paying salary.

Over time, it is a goal for most people to become an accounting manager at some big company or business. Being an accounting manager requires you to work closely with all financial departments in the company. You have to have experience with everything so you understand how to deal with any problems that may arise. This is where on the job training, such as an internship, and having a master’s degree come in handy.

There is no denying the fact that getting the best education possible can help you succeed in accountancy. If you are not willing to go for a master’s degree, it is vital you at least get a bachelor’s degree in accounting. This will give you the best chance possible to start a quality career.

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Child Parenting

There is much literature on how to parent challenging children these days. Unfortunately much of that literature does not typically address the child with special parenting needs and a special parenting understanding. A child that has been diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder, oppositional defiant disorder,or even depression, requires an understanding not of the behavior itself,but rather of the underlying dynamics driving the behavior. Take for example the analogy of an iceberg. Typically when we refer to an iceberg we are referring to what we see above the surface. However, 90% of every iceberg is invisible, lying under the surface. What you consider to be an iceberg is really only the tip. It’s an overwhelming thought when considering how enormous an iceberg is above the surface. Imagine the other 90% lurking underneath.

Negative behaviors demonstrated by children are much the same. Whereas we may attempt to remove an iceberg by hacking away from the top down, we will only be spending endless time and energy focusing on the smallest aspect of the iceberg. When we encourage parents to only focus on alleviating behavior through simple behavior modification charts, boot camp tactics, or logical consequences, we are actually missing the most important part of the behavior. Typically a focus just on the behavior may eliminate the behavior for a while to only see it return another day with greater intensity. Specific parenting steps can be taken to effectively help reduce problem behaviors in a rapid period of time. The steps will not be easy to implement, however with a firm resolve to stay the course the effectiveness of each approach is guaranteed to be effective.

The Stress Model
Stress plays a vital role in everything that we do. As an internal experience we rely on stress daily to stay alive, and engage the outside world. In addition, we rely on stress to fight illness, digest food, and recover from difficult times. Just to laugh is to experience a state of stress. In considering parenting techniques for severe behavior we will be relying on a theory of human behavior called the Stress Model. The Stress Model is a very simple theory of behavior that says, “All behavior arises from a state of stress and in between the behavior and the stress is the presence of one of two primary emotions: Love or Fear. It is through the expression, processing, and understanding of the emotion that we can calm the stress and diminish the behavior.

Very important point:There are only two primary emotions –love and fear. Anger is not a primary emotion. It is a feeling that is secondary to the bodily experience of fear. A fear experience can occur through any of the sensory pathways. Through what you see, hear, touch, smell, taste, and even the temperature of your body. The experience of both stress and fear is cellular. It occurs unconsciously. You will not always know what causes fear or stress. If you are seeing anger, rage, jealousy, and more it is arising from fear, rather than the anger. Love is the space between two people. It is always present and surrounds us each day. The only thing that keeps us out of love is our fear. Since the presence of love is natural, it is up to us to put fear aside and step into the presence of love. You may have heard it said, “Perfect love casts out all fear,” or “Love and fear cannot co-exist. “We have calmly come to perceive as love is only fear in disguise. Most often times we do not see this because we fail to see our own fear the majority of the time. When talking about the specific severe behaviors, it will be important to remember the fear and stress they create in the parent first. If you try to overcome fear by creating more fear, you only make fear greater.

Action exercise:
Try to see fear in actions between you and your child for one full week. You’ll be amazed.


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